Courtesy Among Men

Every weekday morning, around 9:30am, most of the office gets up and walks down the block to our usual espresso joint for coffee and tea. We pass through several doors on the way out, and again on the way in, and being the mature, courteous men that we are, we’ll hold the doors open for each other. The first person to reach the door will generally hold it for the rest of us to walk through.

You can imagine, then, what was passing through my mind yesterday morning as we filed out the building, nodding our thanks to the door-holder, after reading this about Ken Hutcherson, pastor at Antioch Bible Church in Kirkland:

[One Sunday] Hutcherson was preaching on gender roles. During his sermon, Hutcherson stated, “God hates soft men” and “God hates effeminate men.” Hutcherson went on to say, “If I was in a drugstore and some guy opened the door for me, I’d rip his arm off and beat him with the wet end.”

Hutcherson’s arrogant, opportunistic bigotry is well-known and I’m saddened, but not surprised, by his hatefulness. What is shocking, though, is that he preaches such violence at church. His message is so counter to my understanding of Christianity it borders on blasphemy. How is he tolerated in the Christian community?

I’m an atheist. I have thought long and hard, and with as much humility as I can muster, about religion and its place in my life and the world around me. I’ve also considered the place of religion in the lives of my family and friends. I have been inspired by the passionate joy of my friends’ faith and the quiet humility of their service. My views about faith are continually challenged by the compassionate, intelligent beliefs of my family and friends. Their diverse beliefs motivate my quest for understanding, keep me asking questions, and keep me humble.

When I hear about someone like Ken Hutcherson, though, I’m filled with smug righteousness. Thank god I’m not a believer like him.

0 thoughts on “Courtesy Among Men

  1. It’s people like him that make me run from any organized religion. They are such corrupt, hateful, backwards organizations – top to bottom.

    That said, I dont think I’ve drifted into atheism. I believe in some higher spirituality, but I believe it should be explored personally.

    A pause for reflection, a focus on doing better, helping a neighbor, holding a door open for a freind.

  2. I met Ken on a couple of times. I found him to be arrogant and very superficial. He acted like he was better than everyone else and we all should bow in his presence follow whatever he said. This comment by him does not surprise me. He has publicly pushed his old-fashioned out dated agenda of men are men and women serve men and you will burn in hell if you are gay.

    I have no respect for him. People like him are the reason I stay away from the church like the plague. What scares me the most is that people listen to what he says. What gives me hope is that the more he speaks, the more people realize he is a jack ass.