I’ve been continuing to think about discipline the past few weeks. I feel like we’re coming to a threshold where catering to Ruby’s every whim will no longer be the best parenting philosophy. Not sure when, and it’ll probably be a gradual change, but it’s coming…
I read T. Berry Brazelton’s Discipline: The Brazelton Way last week and it didn’t provide much insight. It’s a pretty short book, and so it moves pretty quickly, glossing over important areas and not really explaining the underlying psychology in detail. The best parts of the book, and they are rare, are the dialogues between parent and child that illlustrate good and bad parenting techniques. If I could find a large collection of those, that would be useful.
Down in New Zealand, a Christian group is promoting a more old-school approach to discipline:
Family Integrity has produced a controversial eight-page booklet on how to use physical punishment under the present law.
Parents are told that smacking can be a “10-to-15-minute process” and that if a child reacts angrily, such as by slamming doors or “pouting”, they should be smacked again.
“Smacking is meant to drive the foolishness, the sinful manifestations, out of the child’s personality so that they do not become permanent fixtures,” it says.
My favorite quote from the pro-smacking booklet:
“If the child is angry after the smack, you have not smacked hard enough.”
Kate has a few comments about the current state of discipline over at Ruby’s Blog.